Senior actress Asma Abbas has advised girls to speak to their husbands with calm and patience to convey their point effectively.
In an interview with journalist Maleeha Rehman, while discussing marriage, she said, “I want to tell the young generation to set boundaries before making decisions, recognise both the good and bad traits of their partners and think carefully before making choices.”
“I want to tell girls that everyone has minor flaws and no one is perfect. Our girls are no less, with so many demands and such sharp tongues. Girls should speak to their husbands but do so with control,” she advised.
“In our time, it was understood that you must make your point, but with a bit of patience and tolerance. When things were said with love, they were accepted,” she added.
Abbas believes that nowadays, girls are “hasty and say things quickly”.
“They should have a bit of patience and tolerance, swallow their anger, take a five-minute break, and then make their point. It will be accepted if spoken calmly. One shouldn’t speak in anger; learn to stay quiet in anger, and things will get easier,” she said.
“Not only girls but men too need to learn to stay quiet in anger. They often mistreat and speak harshly to their wives. Some even resort to abuse and violence, which she is strongly against,” she added.
Apart from being patient, Asma Abbas also advised setting boundaries.
“On my YouTube channel, I tell girls that if they are abused or hit, they should leave immediately and not stay with that person because such things should not be tolerated. Abuse and harsh language are horrifying, and if you tolerate it, it will only increase,” she further advised.
Not allowed to work
In her interview with Maleeha Rehman, Asma Abbas also admitted that her husband did not allow her to work in showbiz for 18 years after marriage, which is why she had been absent from the drama industry.
“After marriage, my husband stopped me from working in the entertainment industry. He did not like the entertainment industry,” she said.
“With my husband in the army, he kept getting transferred, which made it difficult for me to work in show business, so I did not work for 18 years of marriage,” she added.
“Later, my husband came to understand the entertainment industry, after which he allowed me to work in dramas after 18 years of marriage,” Abbas said.
She also talked about her daughter Zara Noor Abbas and said, “At the beginning of her career, my daughter made many friends in the entertainment industry, but she got cheated.”
“Zara Noor Abbas did not understand; she made mistakes and considered everyone in showbiz as her friend, but she soon realised that the entertainment industry is not like that. There are deceptions, and after receiving losses, she understood,” she added.
Asma Abbas, while talking about awards shows, said, “In Pakistan, only lux and hum awards are held, and there too many people are ignored.
“I know that I will never get an award, and I do not need an award now.”
“I played a good role in the play ‘Chupke Chupke’, and the entire team was given an award, but the award was not far away. I was not even nominated and invited,” she said.
“I hoped that my daughter Zara Noor Abbas would win awards in the future,” Abbas expressed.
“I never instructed my daughter not to work in the entertainment industry, nor did I impose any strictness on her.”
Talking about her marriage and career, she said, “I married a serving army colonel at the age of just 23.”
