Tag: elderly

  • The many times Manzar Sehbai’s praise for wife Samina Ahmed moved us to tears

    We are quite used to the stereotypical narrative that the best time to find success and wealth, especially love, is in your youth. Most of our dramas keep catering to the misogynist mindset that any woman who is 21 or older is too old to get married or live her life any more.

    Very rarely do we see public figures debunk these misconceptions beautifully by teaching us that even in older age, you can keep on living your life and even find your soulmate. And there is no one who is aging with grace and celebrating life like Manzar Sehbai and Samina Ahmed are. The two thespians got married in 2020 when they were both in their seventies, and continue to prove that age is just a number.

    Sehbai has moved social media to tears with the gorgeous birthday wish he sent his wife Samina, on his Instagram page and on Twitter, where he called her the most “courageous, loving and most caring of all the women I came across in my life.”

    Twitter users were overwhelmed by such a powerful declaration of love.

    But this isn’t the only time Sehbai proved there is no one who loves his wife more than him. Countless times on social media he has championed Ahmed’s beauty and powerful career and we’re providing you with a tear-jerking journey of what a healthy relationship looks like.

    Warning: keep tissues nearby.

    Like this time when Sehbai praised Ahmed for her role as the nani in the critically acclaimed ‘Ms. Marvel’ series.

    Or this sentimental moment when at a talk show with Neo News, Sehbai recalled the moment when they were planning to get married but the thought that struck them was “what will other people think?” To which Sehbai responded:

    “I said whatever they want to say, they can go to hell. This is about me and you, we’re making this decision. People will keep talking as they will.”

    Or basically every moment he has celebrated her life’s achievements like when Ahmed received the Lifetime Achievement Award and he said she “deserves much more than that.”

  • Shaista Lodhi wants more dramas about older people falling in love

    Shaista Lodhi wants more dramas about older people falling in love

    Dr. Shaista Lodhi spoke to BBC Urdu about her on-air drama ‘Samjhota’, which revolves around an elderly man getting married for the second time to a divorcee, after his first wife passes away.

    Lodhi revealed that she wanted to do this drama because it explored the kind of stigma elderly people face, and encouraged them to remember that they can restart their lives after retirement.

    “Whenever I’m offered a project, I try to make sure that it is on a subject that can be relatable for a lot of people…So when I heard about this story, I felt like I should do it because we need to address this issue in our society…It showed that at a certain age when we think our elderly mother and father are only around to take care of our children, but instead you’ll witness the love story between these two main characters in the drama. I thought this was such a great example being set. The other thing is in our society at a certain age our parents are left lonely while we get busy building our own lives. We seem to think that our parents can’t find a new partner after their own spouse and they don’t have a life of their own. We are busy with our own life, we aren’t able to give them any time, or the responsibilities we have as their child. We also can’t imagine if our father gets married for the second time. So I thought this would be food for thought for our society, and I liked the script and decided to take it on.”

    She also talked about the ways ‘Samjhota’ breaks away from formulae drama, and brings the love story between an elderly couple to the forefront.

    “It’s incredibly important that we remind our elderly that life doesn’t end when you grow old. Once they age, we restrict them in a box, and I don’t think any other drama has taken a step to discuss this topic…If our father is coughing, why do we want to send our house help to get him a glass of water and cough syrup? Instead, why don’t we show our father getting up and keeps working in this age so he can prove that he is an active part of the social set up. We snatch this energy from elderly people by telling them that they’re retired so they must sit at home…Don’t you think that as a society we are cruel to the growing segment that we call ‘elderly’ because we completely ignore them? We ignore children the same way we ignore our elderly. We only cater to the middle ground because that is the only way we can get ratings.”

    On the feedback she has been receiving on ‘Samjhota’, Lodhi said a lot of people meet her on planes and continuously ask her questions about her dramas, and have praised her for her performance.

    Listen to the full interview here: