Tag: Kanwal Ahmed

  • Tiktoker Kanwal Aftab slammed for telling 2.8 million followers that women should fix abusive husbands

    Tiktoker Kanwal Aftab slammed for telling 2.8 million followers that women should fix abusive husbands

    Tiktoker and Instagram influencer Kanwal Aftab has been slammed by the internet for telling a fan that women should “support” abusive husbands.

    During a question and answer session on Instagram, Aftab, who has over 2.8 million followers, was asked by a fan how a woman could cope with an abusive husband when she can’t find a good job.

    The influencer responded:

    “Try to support him. Motivate him. Divorce koi rasta nahi hai.”

    This harmful advice was slammed by social media users, especially the Founder of Soul Sisters Pakistan, Kanwal Ahmed, who shared a screenshot of Aftab’s answer and schooled the Tiktoker:

    “Tiktoker Kanwal Aftab with 18.4 MILLION followers wants women to “support” and “motivate” husbands who abuse them. Struggling to understand if that means cheering them on as they punch her? Or leaving a reminder to do it again when they’re done?”

    She also shared another response by Aftab where the user had been asked if she truly meant that women should support husbands while suffering under domestic violence, the Instagram influencer had responded: “Bhain support karien us kay halat ko behtar karne m. Usko sahi karne mein.”

    “Women don’t get married to “fix” abusive men. Or to support and validate their violent behaviour,” Ahmed tweeted.

    Social media users condemned the display of misogyny and schooled the Tiktoker for making irresponsible statements on a public platform.

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    Why does the burden of fixing the marriage always fall on the woman? Many users had to ask Aftab this

    “Why the “sahi karna” burden always fall on women in marriage. Men are grown up individuals! It’s high we need to understand, if a human doesn’t want to be corrected no one can! And there should be a boundary in marriage! And domestic violence is way far from that boundary line!”

    It is never the woman’s responsibility to endure something as heinous as domestic violence, and we are also shocked at how our celebrities have no issue in turning a blind eye towards abusive marriages, and consistently tell women to endure rather than leave.

  • Seven times Pakistani celebrities had cringe-worthy ideas about marriage, home making

    Pakistani celebrities should stick to their day jobs of making cringe worthy dramas and films, rather than sharing their totkay about how to make marriages last and tips on how to keep their susral happy.

    Muneeb Butt made news yesterday when he revealed that they did not have a chef, because his wife Aiman Khan cooks during Ramazan, stating that it improves the emotional connection between wife and husband.

    Jee sir, humein batain aap nay kya kiya hai jis say aap ki marriage mein emotional connection improve hui? Or is it just women who need to work to keep the spark alive.

    Sadly, this wasnt the only time celebrities did not think before speaking. We have witnessed a spectacle of events in the past few years of some cringe-inducing home making and housewifery tips from the mouths of the leading public figures of Pakistan.

    Like the time model Sadaf Kanwal lectured women on how to become their hubby’s nanny by cleaning up after him because obviously feminism and Aurat March is breaking up our families.

    Or the time Sanam Saeed stepped in to suggest that every woman should give their husband the same attention as they would provide to a child. Video courtesy of ARY DIGITAL

    Let’s not forget the moment when veteran actress Meera tried to prove her cooking skills with a 35 minute recipe that involved clean water, olive oil and thora sa namak. Video courtesy of Samaa

    Or if you need a tip on how to woo your wife on national television? Agha Ali has the best advice. Video courtesy of ARY DIGITAL.

    Ya phir any advice on how to pick your ideal man? Hira Mani has the best tip which involves back stabbing your best friend. Video courtesy of BOL Network.

    How to ensure women are respected in their homes and not treated as domestic labor? Nida Yasir thought she was hitting the jackpot when she decided to invite saas and their bahus on national television and encourage them to reveal their petty critiques to everyone. Video courtesy of Ary Digital.

  • Nida Yasir lands in hot waters for making ‘saas-bahu’ fight for ratings

    Nida Yasir lands in hot waters for making ‘saas-bahu’ fight for ratings

    Actor and Morning show host Nida Yasir is being trolled by Twitterati for inviting pairs of mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law for the two to face off in front of an audience.

    A clip from the show doing the rounds on social media follows a mother-in-law complaining about how she had demanded for an educated daughter-in-law who can do domestic chores, emphasizing that her daughter-in-law has no interest in looking after domestic affairs. 

    The clip was shared by a host and social media influencer Kanwal Ahmed on Twitter, “Nida Yasir just topped her own problematic standards on this show where she invited saas bahus to complain about each other. Like here, a saas claims she hired a marriage bureau to find her a ‘perfect’ bahu who is educated but must stay home, only to discover she’s ‘phuar’. 

    In September 2020, Nida hosted a similar show which received flak.

    Earlier on Ahsan Khan’s show, the Nadaaniyaan star stated, “Interviews with known people usually get very high ratings but as soon as we switch to something more educational or informative the numbers fall. I love the more informative shows and so does the more educated demographic.” 

    Nida recently clapped back at a troll for age-shaming her.

  • Influencer calls out ‘HKKST’ for showcasing ‘child domestic labour’, gets polarizing response

    Influencer calls out ‘HKKST’ for showcasing ‘child domestic labour’, gets polarizing response

    Influencer Kanwal Ahmed has called out drama serial Hum Kahan Ke Sachay Thay for featuring characters endorsing child domestic labour. The hit play features superstar Mahira Khan, Kubra Khan and Usman Mukhtar as the lead trio.

    Actor Zainab Qayoom responded her under the tweet and stated that initially it was a concern that was raised by her fellow colleagues and herself but the character is pivotal to the plot of the drama.

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    Netizens remained divided as some believed that it just depicts the reality which a drama is supposed to while others stated that a drama featuring such big stars shouldn’t endorse the concept of domestic child labour.

    So far only four episodes have been released and the story is yet to unfold further which will provide more clarity on the matter.

  • Osman Khalid Butt defends ‘Chupke Chupke’ for ‘presenting ghar damads in negative light’

    Osman Khalid Butt defends ‘Chupke Chupke’ for ‘presenting ghar damads in negative light’

    Soul Sisters Pakistan’s (SSP) Kanwal Ahmed recently called out Chupke Chupke for portraying ghar damads in a negative light.

    Ahmed, who was recently selected by Facebook as one of its 115 ‘Community Leaders’ using the social network to help others, criticised the serial for “disempowering audiences by reinforcing problematic stereotypes.”

    Referring to a character (played by Ali Safina) belittled in the drama for staying with his in-laws, Ahmed said: “Such as here the ‘ghar damad‘ character is an object of constant ridicule. Only yesterday a woman on SSP was asking how she and [her] sisters can manage her old parents as none of them can move in with them.”

    Responding to Kanwal’s tweet, Osman Khalid Butt – who plays the lead character in Chupke Chupke – said that in the context of the drama, the ‘ghar damad’ is not the victim.

    “This is an interesting take. However, it’s important to mention that this ‘ghar damad‘ refuses to work despite being offered a job in the family business. He isn’t with his in-laws because of financial (or any) duress and while he’s played for broad comedy, he has his own arc,” said Butt.

    Ahmed, in response, argued the character’s incompetence is to deliberately put him in a bad light to validate age-old stereotypes.

    “My concern though is that comedy that identifies with problematic, existing stereotypes reinforces them in society. For example, how many men would want to be ‘ghar damads’ after watching this?” questioned Kanwal.

    Agreeing with Ahmed that the stereotype was not as nuanced as it should have been, Butt said: “But viewers will also be considering the fact that his wife is shown to be quite obviously dominating / demeaning (which she’s called out on, albeit in a comedic manner). And he’s a slacker, no?”

    Though the two are yet to reach a cohesive conclusion, it won’t be wrong to say our TV screens are yet to project behaviour that does not conform to societal norms in a positive light.

    Written by Saima Akram Chaudhry, Chupke Chupke is a story of two families of late Daar Ji (grandfather), who married twice. The first wife Bebe (Asma Abbas) is a Punjabi woman and the second wife Bakhto (Uzma Beg) is Saraiki. Both gave birth to two children (hilariously emphasizing his equal treatment of wives) and unfortunately, both lost one of their children. We see Farhan Ally Agha as Bebe’s stingy son who has two daughters; Meenu (Ayeza Khan) and Muneeba aka Mirchi. On the other hand, Fahad aka Fazi and Gul (Osman Khalid Butt and Mira Sethi) are twin siblings and grandchildren of Bakhto.

    If this seems confusing to you, embrace for more actors: Hadi and Wali (Arslan Naseer and Aadi Khan) are brothers, Ali Safina (Gul’s husband and a ghar damaad), Mishi (Aymen), and Roomi as OB’s sisters.