Tag: marriage proposal

  • Does the Pakistani man understand that no means no?

    Does the Pakistani man understand that no means no?

    A young girl was subjected to torture in Faisalabad. A final-year student, the girl alleged that her friend’s father became interested in her and even wrote her a formal proposal, which she declined. After she rejected the proposal, the accused pressurised her to change her mind. She received death threats. The complainant was even threatened that she could be raped. In videos that have now gone viral, she was subjected to physical and verbal abuse. Her hair was cut off and she was asked to lick shoes in order to humiliate her. She went through this abuse and torture only because she refused to marry a man who was also her friend’s father. This horrific incident shows how fragile Pakistani male egos are because they will not let a woman exercise her free will and choose to say no.

    This isn’t the first incident of its kind. Back in 2018, a bus hostess was murdered in Faisalabad for rejecting a marriage proposal. We witnessed the same shock and horror that we are seeing today but did it change anything? No. Are women allowed to exercise their free will and choose the men of their choice? No.

    In Punjab, the largest province of Pakistan, a total of 77 cases of physical assault were recorded in the month of July alone — 93 women in Punjab were abducted, and 47 cases of sexual assault cases were recorded. As far as domestic violence cases are concerned, Punjab reported 58 cases.

    Women face the same problems across South Asia. In India, Bilkis Bano — an Indian Muslim woman who was gang-raped in the 2002 Gujarat riots — said that her peace has been taken away after the Gujarat government released her 11 rapists. Her rapists were released on August 15, i.e. Independence Day of India. They were convicted in 2008.“How can justice for any woman end like this? I trusted the highest courts in our land. I trusted the system, and I was learning slowly to live with my trauma. The release of these convicts has taken from me my peace and shaken my faith in justice,” said Bilkis in her statement.

    With all the abuse, harassment, sexual assault, domestic violence, and rapes being reported not just in our country, but around the region, where are we headed as a society? Where do we go from here? Where do we stand? Has humanity died? What about morality and protection in the name of rule and law? Will women ever be safe, anywhere? Women of Pakistan and across the world deserve better.

  • ‘Save me from arranged marriage’: Pakistani uses billboards to find wife

    ‘Save me from arranged marriage’: Pakistani uses billboards to find wife

    A United Kingdom (UK) bachelor Muhammad Malik has set up a website called ‘Findmalikawife.com’ and bought several advertising hoardings across Birmingham in order to find a wife.

    “Save me from an arranged marriage,” read the billboards, along with the link to his website.

    On the website, the Pakistani explains, “My ideal partner would be a Muslim woman in her 20s, who’s striving to better her deen (religion). I’m open to any ethnicity but I’ve got a loud Punjabi family so you would need to keep with the bants.”

    “I just haven’t found the right girl yet. It’s tough out there. I had to get a billboard to get seen!” he added.

    The 29-year-old told BBC, “I’m creative and love doing the most random and absurd things.” The billboards will stay up till January 14.

  • Shehzad Roy rejects marriage proposal, fears being called a ‘vampire’

    Shehzad Roy rejects marriage proposal, fears being called a ‘vampire’

    Singer and activist Shehzad Roy responded to a strange marriage proposal on social media with a witty response.

    Roy shared a photo of a cup of green tea and sweets on Twitter with the caption: “One must always prefer green tea over mithaee, kyoonkay zindagi mein jo thori khushi mil sakti thi, wo bhi na milay.”

    One female fan responded to Roy’s tweet by proposing to him. “I will make you green tea every day with my blood please marry me.”

    Roy’s hilarious answer was quite a hit. He tweeted, “Please don’t say such things otherwise people will start calling me a vampire.”

    Some Twitter users compared Shehzad Roy to Keanu Reeves who doesn’t age after his vampire comment.

  • Woman pushed into well by Instagram friend for rejecting marriage proposal

    Woman pushed into well by Instagram friend for rejecting marriage proposal

    A 22-year-old woman in the Indian state of Bengaluru spent three days in an open 60-foot-deep well without food or water after an Instagram friend of hers allegedly pushed her into the well for rejecting her marriage proposal. Indian media reported that the incident took place in a village near Devanahalli.

    According to details, on October 13, a villager heard someone shouting from the well, upon which the villagers called the fire and rescue department. A team of police, fire, and emergency officials reached the spot with a crane and rescued the woman. The woman’s hand was fractured during the fall.

    The woman revealed that she came to meet her 22-year-old Instagram friend named Adarsh. The two had become friends on Instagram a month back. Adarsh wanted to meet her personally, so the woman took a bus from her village and arrived in Devanahalli on October 10.

    “I reached Devanahalli around 5.30 pm, and he picked me up on his scooter. He told me that he would show me his farmhouse and took me there. He started expressing his desire to marry me. I rejected his proposal, saying I’m already married and have a son. But he didn’t listen and started forcing me to marry him. He threatened to kill me if I rejected his proposal and pushed me into the well. He fled the spot, cursing me that I would die there,” she told police.

    The police later arrested her ‘friend’, who said that he was upset because the woman rejected his marriage proposal.

    Police said the woman luckily survived the fall because of the bushes in the well. They took her to a nearby hospital for the treatment of the injuries she sustained.